Patriarchy: A social system in which the father is the head of the family and men have authority over women and children.
I support Brigitte Harris, the 26-year-old New York woman charged with strangling and castrating her pig of a father for what he did to her because he could.
What he did to his daughter (almost every type of sexual act possible from the time she was 3 years old through her young adulthood) is not remarkable.
One in five girls grows up raped by a family member, night after night year in and year out. Our society condones this, if you find that hard to believe, listen to a victim. As if.
Our society likes to believe that incest is taboo. Wrong, incest is ordinary. Revealing the truth of incest is what’s taboo. Victims who do tell are not believed. None of which is remarkable or in the least even slightly bearable.
“Tonight is about helping women speak out about abuse. Brigitte tried to speak out but nobody heard,’ said Dr. Nicoletta Pallotta, founder of the Brooklyn-based Women Against Violence, and one of the dozens who attended the two hour service. “Somehow or another, that kind of abuse gets you,” she added.
It gets you thrown in psych wards, stigmatized as a suicidal borderline cutter and psycho-bitch entertainment, all of which is barely tolerated by the larger society, and tolerated only because the p0rn industry depends on us to fill the ranks of the sex class, to be tied up, pissed on, and double-penetrated by father’s successors. None of this is remarkable. Girls who grow up abused are expected to do the right thing and turn their rage against themselves.
What’s remarkable is for a victim to put her anger where it belongs.
I saw Brigitte’s sister Carleen on Montel Williams Thursday where she wept, blamed herself and disclosed the extent of her father’s depravity. Their mother abandoned the baby girls and they spent their first years in foster homes. The day their father Eric picked them up to live with him he pulled over on the side of the road and forced 4 year old Carleen to give him oral sex. That was their reality from that day forward.
From Brigitte’s pre-murder myspace profile, under “Who I would like to meet”:
ANYONE WHO CAN SAVE ME
Carleen set up a website where supporters can donate to her sister’s defense fund: Save Brigitte Harris.
She also has her own myspace page, here,
which reflects her courageous and tentative steps on her journey toward healing and activism:
I’ve decided to start a page after seeing all the support my sister has received from this community. My name is Carleen Goodridge, & like my sister Brigitte, am a survivor of chilhood Sexual Abuse (CSA). My goal right now is to keep you all informed with any events her friends & family may have in her honor. I would also like this page to serve as an opportunity to bring awareness to this tragic epidemic happening across our nations. If you or someone you know is or has shared this “SECRET”, seek out help, speak out to help. We are not alone.