“You have to deal with the unbearable if you ever want to make it lose its power over you.
Every time you can meet the real pain head-on and feel it and tolerate the distress, it loses a little of its ability to wipe you out and eventually it becomes just a memory.
The process is like building tolerance to a drug.
Narcotics users take a little bit more of their drug every day as tolerance builds, until eventually they’re routinely taking amounts of drug that would kill an ordinary person.
The poisonous events in your past work in a similar way.
Exposure …over time will build your tolerance to these events and enable you to lay them to rest.
The key is learning to tolerate distress.”
Marsha Linehan on DBT.